tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post296785773549640559..comments2024-03-23T10:52:49.626+00:00Comments on this little house: HITTING A BUMP IN THE ROADthislittlehousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17462611842969584032noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-51868047802231777102014-02-13T03:05:27.792+00:002014-02-13T03:05:27.792+00:00Hi, Claire. This is your instagram buddy Angie (@a...Hi, Claire. This is your instagram buddy Angie (@angie_mahlke) just now stumbling across your blog. Not sure how I missed it for so long. I'm glad I found it, especially this post in particular. There are so many times in my short parenting life (4 1/2 years, to be exact) that I have felt exactly like this. Sometimes I'd rather be anywhere other than with my kids, even if that involves physical pain on my part. Being a mom has changed me in so many ways, most of them so very, very good and positive with unicorns and butterflies and daisies and all that crap. But sometimes all I can see is how much it has changed me on the opposite spectrum, the non-unicorn, butterflies, daisies crap. It's hard! So hard! I barely recognize myself sometimes. A simple trip to the grocery store is a highlight of my Monday. Story time at the library is a lifeline to the outside world. Late nights by myself and my quiet (OMG finally quiet) house is my saving grace. I wouldn't change anything about my life as a mom. It's the most cherished part of me. But it's still hard. So so so so so hard! Thanks for your honesty and insight. You will encounter many such phases in your son's life, but at least you now know that you need to distance yourself from the blame game. I'm still trying to learn that lesson. It's one that proves to be ongoing with each new phase and developmental milestone, and--honestly--their (and my!) daily moods. Cheers! We're in this together!The Mahlke Chronicleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16825962313844593684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-39744428700515359532014-02-09T23:58:15.546+00:002014-02-09T23:58:15.546+00:00Awww Claire I just read this; your writing is so h...Awww Claire I just read this; your writing is so honest and I imagine every mother can identify with this. <br /><br />I think we all get so caught up with an idealistic, dream like, view of parenthood that the reality can sometimes feel like a bit of a kick in the teeth. But you know what, they are becoming little people and we are people and people fall out, right? We are the ones that they get to test out all their first emotions on, including the rubbish ones and we are allowed to dislike it because from our reactions they will eventually learn what is socially acceptable and what isn't. <br /><br />It's tough when you get a testing toddler, I often feel like I must just be a crap mum with poor parenting skills but you know what... the spirited toddlers are the ones who show many of the characteristics we approve of in adults... confidence, high self-esteem, curiosity, boundary pushing, experimentation! All these things, in a toddler, are often mistaken for naughtyness. <br /><br />The big point is that not liking is incredibly different to not loving... and I bet I can guarantee that on the mad, crazy nights when your little man just won't go to bed and your nerves are shot to pieces, the minute he is tucked up in bed, fast asleep you will sneak up and watch him with complete pride.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04227524698517008026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-22853378174291205822014-02-04T21:12:49.564+00:002014-02-04T21:12:49.564+00:00Oh these words are so true. Thank you.
What do you...Oh these words are so true. Thank you.<br />What do you mean it doesn't get any easier???!!! ;p<br />Definitely going to invest in some decent wrinkle cream ;)thislittlehousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462611842969584032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-43021214845480779052014-02-04T21:10:02.426+00:002014-02-04T21:10:02.426+00:00Thank you so much, Kate. Everyone's support ha...Thank you so much, Kate. Everyone's support has built my faltering mama confidence right back up.<br />Being able to write it all down as well really helps. It's like looking at a bunch of facts spread out on a table, accepting them, and then moving on. Those feeling now feel completely out my system. Thank god!<br />I hope your sister is doing okay, it's the most incredible journey becoming and being a parent but it's also one of the hardest. Having support around you in key. I hope your're not missing them all too much. I always love having a peak at what you're up to, sorry if I don't get the chance to comment, toddlerhood has certainly culled my blog time. I feel lucky if I get to read a post never mind a chance to comment these days ;) x<br />thislittlehousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462611842969584032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-60230117585430937482014-02-04T21:00:57.999+00:002014-02-04T21:00:57.999+00:00Thank you so much, Roseann. I am such a typical Ge...Thank you so much, Roseann. I am such a typical Gemini, I bottle stuff up and then when I'm ready to speak, it pours out and you can't shut me up. I've had such a positive response to this post, and if it makes someone else feel like they are not alone in this, then that's good enough for me. xthislittlehousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462611842969584032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-83002575683291428502014-02-04T20:57:33.537+00:002014-02-04T20:57:33.537+00:00Oh Colette, I just want to give you the biggest hu...Oh Colette, I just want to give you the biggest hug. It's horrible when you're in the thick of it. It sounds like a lot of change is going on in your household, which is all part and parcel of them growing up. But your right, even though you know what is causing the tantrums doesn't make it any easier to deal with. I hope you have help surrounding you, ain't no shame in asking friends and family for help, and always feel free to drop me an email if you need a rant. Believe me when I say, I know how you feel xthislittlehousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462611842969584032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-42176794901801493812014-02-04T20:49:28.629+00:002014-02-04T20:49:28.629+00:00Thank you, Rachael. Everyone's response and su...Thank you, Rachael. Everyone's response and support has been amazing, and although I don't wish anyone to be sharing similar stresses as me, it's so comforting to know I'm not alone.<br />The tantrum stage is crazy hard, but that's exactly what it is, a stage.<br />Oh and kicking off because he couldn't have Daddy's beer. Classic toddler antics right there ;) xthislittlehousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462611842969584032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-60284907865823923672014-02-04T11:15:25.557+00:002014-02-04T11:15:25.557+00:00I think all parents have points where they are jus...I think all parents have points where they are just so stressed by their children's behaviour that they wonder if they did everything wrong. We dislike the behaviour and feel wecan't do it any more, and if we're going the wrong way then what should be do anyway. And then it passes, and our children do something magical and our faith in ourselves returns. None of us actually want robots, but watching them start to make their own decisions and form their own personalities can be very hard at times - it doesn't get any easier...wait until he's a teenager! Jenny at The Brick Castlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090208734161519771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-5239868128699752882014-02-04T10:58:06.600+00:002014-02-04T10:58:06.600+00:00This is an amazingly honest post, and I think it&#...This is an amazingly honest post, and I think it's so wonderful that you put it up here. I'm not a mother, but my sister is a new mother and experiencing all of the ups and downs that come with that brand new experiences. Many of my friends have toddlers at the moment and I can't tell you how many times I've seen status updates of blatant desperation crop up on Facebook from moms feeling trapped at home for this or that reason. But I think it's also so great that you're able to talk it out... it's so easy, with anything, to get wrapped up in it and start feeling guilty for having totally natural responses to things! I'm glad to hear that things have begun to even out, at least you're finding your footing, and it will help Caleb find his footing too :)<br /><br />Cheers,<br />Kate x<br /><br />Artsy Abroad // http://artsyabroad.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17684051802245848006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-29858926705448541742014-02-04T00:16:28.908+00:002014-02-04T00:16:28.908+00:00This is beautiful. Thank you for pouring your hear...This is beautiful. Thank you for pouring your heart out, I think a lot of people can benefit from reading this, be it caregivers, mamas, papas, grandparents and siblings. Love to you and your family, and I'm glad that you were able to find some perspective!Roseannhttp://www.roseannbathphoto.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-9635447725129613412014-02-03T23:21:27.744+00:002014-02-03T23:21:27.744+00:00This really hits home for me right now. Joey (2.5 ...This really hits home for me right now. Joey (2.5 yrs) has been a dream up until a few weeks ago. I'm a little shell shocked and unprepared to deal with a difficult child having not having to deal with anything other than the odd protest at bath time. He's been through a lot of changes recently- new sister, potty training, starting pre-school so it's all understandable, but this doesn't make it any easier to deal with. He hits, he kicks, he throws toys, he screams. And I have to admit at these times, I don't like him. We cool off and make up, and I have my gorgeous boy back again, but I know it is only a matter of time until we reenact the whole process again. I can only hope this phase passes quickly. It has already changed my mind about having a third child as I can't bear the thought of dealing with three children having a bad day at the same time! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12630525148627156132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7833234719746747318.post-61145496572663573252014-02-03T22:51:27.265+00:002014-02-03T22:51:27.265+00:00I can relate.
max has hit 'terrible twos' ...I can relate.<br />max has hit 'terrible twos' and kicked right off in the restaurant on Sunday because we wouldn't give him daddy's beer!!!!!!!!!!<br />I had to take him outside to calm down and hear the restaurant tutting at me as I went (I'm sure that's in my head)<br /><br />Stay strong, he's going to be wonderful young man CalebRachael Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15830893774747129170noreply@blogger.com